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Saturday, 17 October 2020
The Law Of Attraction - Is This The Whole Story?
You may well have heard of the Law of Attraction, a concept that infers that like attracts like. But what does this mean? For me, it means that if you wholeheartedly want something (and you do something about manifesting it) chances are that you'll get it.
But does the concept really work?
As a Life Coach I am hot on forward thinking and working towards what I call 'ideals'. An ideal is simply something positive that you want to see happen - it's a vision, a mission, a purpose, a goal.
A number of years ago I compiled one sheet of paper that contained my overall life purpose, my vision, my goals and a list of projects stemming from those goals. Everything I wrote down came from deep within me, and had been an integral part of me for years.
I have been looking at that sheet of paper almost daily since compiling it without thinking too much about how the things on the sheet were going to manifest.
The reason why I refer to the sheet so often is simply because it makes me feel good. It directs me and stirs me in a positive way. In short, it represents everything I want to manifest in my life.
More recently I attended a meeting with some colleagues and we talked about developing an enterprise. As the discussions went on I realised that much of what we were talking about resembled what was on my sheet.
On returning home I looked at the sheet and laughed. Practically everything I'd written down was covered in the meeting. This happened not because I was pushing my own agenda. It happened naturally because we were all of the same mindset with similar aspirations and wanting to achieve similar life and business goals... like attracting like.
I've now realised that everything I've aspired to may come to fruition by default if our enterprise is successful.
So does this concept of attraction really work? Yes I think so!
Now you could say that nothing I've put out there has yet come to fruition. This is true. However, the meeting showed me that things are already beginning to shift.
If I hadn't produced this sheet I doubt whether the conversation in that meeting would have gone the same way. I may well have been more easily led by the others around the table, because I would have had no real perspective of my own.
By clearly articulating my purpose, vision, goals and projects, and referring to them on a daily basis, my subconscious mind is already recognising opportunities that will help to make these a reality. That meeting (and the subsequent enterprise idea) is one of those opportunities.
I do believe, however, that there are certain caveats to the concept:
Windows of Opportunity
Once you've clearly and specifically established where you want to go, windows of opportunity begin to open for you. It is for you to grab those opportunities and immediately take the action necessary to achieve your goals. Otherwise, those windows eventually close and the opportunity is lost.
Letting Go
I also believe an important element is that you let go of the outcome. Be OK with achieving your goals and aspirations, and with not achieving them. This is because, in my view, becoming desperate about your achievements pushes them away. Becoming more relaxed about them increases the chances of you achieving them. For me it's also about recognising that your aspirations may not always manifest in the way you envision them - and being OK with this.
Giving It Time
I also think it's important to give yourself the time you need to manifest your ideal. Specific timeframes focus and galvanise you into action. However if those timeframes are unrealistic they could have the opposite effect. You may feel that if you've not reached your goal within the timeframe you've set yourself that you've somehow failed.
Allowing yourself the time to mature with your vision and grow to become the kind of person who can make it happen may well increase the chances of you succeeding.
So yes I believe the law of attraction works if:
· You're clear and specific about precisely what you want
· You focus daily on what you want
· You take full advantage of the opportunities that show up and do the work that's necessary
· You let go of the desperation and...
· You give it time
Carmen Gilfillan is the founder of Stimulus Development & Training. Stimulus is dedicated to helping people raise their game, fulfil their potential and and live their best lives. We do this through Life & Wellness Coaching, Energy Therapy consultations and training in the areas of personal, professional and spiritual growth. Check out our website at http://www.stimulus.uk.com to book a coaching or Energy Therapy consultation.
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Saturday, 5 September 2020
How to Maintain Happiness
Have you ever felt listless and bloated - unable to step away from the couch and the steady stream of negativity that comes at us from our media choices?
Sometimes, inertia takes hold of us, and we find that it is very difficult to get moving. This can be true with physical exercise, when sitting on the couch for long periods leads us to want to just sit on the couch some more. Hardly anyone is able to move from sitting around straight to running a marathon.
If this is true with physical fitness, it is even more likely with our emotional fitness. Sometimes we get into bad habits in terms of our own mindset. We find ourselves criticising others, and this is almost always an indication that there is something we don't love about ourselves. We start to dwell in a cycle of self-criticism and cynicism toward others. And then we add other toxic influences to the mix: unpleasant entertainment choices, troubling news coverage, or sarcastic, argumentative, unhelpful social media.
What we take in is supposed to support and sustain us, but sometimes we find ourselves in cycles of the emotional equivalent of junk food - and it can make us fat with misery.
Statistics tell us that Americans have a weight problem. One-third of all Americans are severely obese, by the numbers, and another one-third are classified as overweight. A full two-thirds of us should work on our physical fitness.
But I'm not a dietician, and I'm not a personal trainer. My field is happiness.
The thing is, I have observed that our nation's unhappiness problem is even more severe than our national struggle with the scale. If we were to gauge citizens' level of happiness fitness instead of its physical fitness, we would likely recognise we have an even larger crisis on our hands.
What I'm offering here is a metaphor, but a very useful one - I'm looking at happiness as it compares to our epidemic of overweight. Although health and fitness contribute to our level of happiness - to how we feel, and to what activities we can participate in with vigour - it would be a mistake to link these ideas too tightly. People of all shapes and sizes have happiness as their birthright.
But what we do to lose weight is very similar to what we do to become emotionally fit, in that there are three steps we have to follow to obtain fitness:
1. Exercise
2. Make healthy food choices
3. Get back on track
Weight loss is a mighty struggle for people who have that as their goal, and regardless of the method one chooses, it's an arduous path. People who haven't tried to lose weight may think that some of the available surgeries (gastric band, gastric bypass, etc.) are an easy fix for obesity, but these procedures can be risky, and they also require changes to diet, proving that there is no true shortcut to fitness. Persistence is the only way to achieve any kind of fitness, including physical and emotional varieties.
Let's take a closer look at three steps to weight loss as we think of how they are also the three steps to emotional fitness, or happiness:
Exercise
We all know the role exercise plays in weight loss. It's a way to burn calories and to burn fat. We must burn about 3,500 calories to lose a pound of fat. According to the Mayo Clinic, that means that if we burn 500 calories each day beyond what our body requires to function, we should lose about a pound per week. (Research has shown that weight loss is a bit more complicated than this, but this basic understanding is a good starting point for our discussion.)
Normal life functions burn a certain number of calories each day. Beyond the calories required to breathe, sit, stand, walk around the house, and watch TV, exercise burns additional calories, and for this reason it's a go-to strategy for losing body fat. If you weigh 155 pounds, walking can burn around 167 calories in 30 minutes. Jogging or running can burn 372 calories in the same 30 minutes. There are many lists available that spell out the calorie-burning value of multiple types of exercise, from swimming to yoga to sex. (It turns out that we don't have to suffer to exercise!)
When we are thinking of emotional fitness instead of weight loss, there are also ways we can "exercise," each with varying degrees of effectiveness as well.
It's really about what we do throughout the day to flex our happiness muscles. Do we treat others with kindness? If someone tries to cut us off in traffic, do we scream at them, or do we slow down and let them in? Are our interactions with others uplifting to them, or do we try to cut them down? Are our thoughts, words, and actions good for our soul or bad for our soul?
And we must look further than our actions and words to our life situation. Are our relationships building us up, or are they tearing us down? And in our work lives, have we found purpose and meaning, or do we hate every moment as we focus on negativity at the office?
We can exercise where our emotional state is concerned. If we want to be happy - the emotional equivalent of the physical concept of fitness - there are many exercises we can try. Here are a few:
• We can meditate. Meditation is a powerful tool for focusing on the still, quiet voice within while cutting through the often-negative din of the day.
• We can exercise (literally). It turns out that the value of exercise is not metaphorical; moving our bodies can release endorphins to make us feel better.
• We can go out in nature. Being in the grandeur of nature can help us to put pettiness aside and consider our larger purpose in the universe.
• We can spend time with people who sustain us. Think of how you feel when you spend time with people who have gentle, peaceful souls, and you'll recognise how this is a perfect "exercise" to lead to happiness.
When we engage in literal exercise, particularly when we are no longer used to doing so, it may hurt a little bit, but afterwards, it feels so good. The same is true with happiness, and those ways in which we can actively participate to improve our lives.
It is so important to be proactive about our emotional fitness. For each activity we engage in, we need to ask ourselves a simple question: Is this something that is adding to my contentment, or is it tearing me down?
Each action we take in life can be scrutinised in this way. Over the years, I have worked with so many people who have longed for improved happiness, and my advice has been pretty consistent. I tell them to meditate, to get out in nature, to take time to consider the beauty of a sunset.
It's no surprise to me that I have never had anyone come back to me and say how terrible their experience was when they followed my advice. Instead, they always come back and say, "That was wonderful!"
It might be easy to take in a sunset (though hard for some who are trapped in a fast-paced, frenetic life to make time for it). Meditation is somewhat different in this regard. Meditating can be a challenge for those who are new to it. In time, though, it begins to make sense. We realise there may be some good in meditating - we feel it inside - so we decide to keep working on it; we just have to get used to it, exactly like exercise.
If we haven't exercised in years, it's going to be uncomfortable at first, and if we've never consciously meditated, that will feel hard, too. Soon enough, though, it will start to feel good, and we'll want to do it on a regular basis.
Making healthy food choices
When we want to lose weight, another strategy we try is making better food choices. Someone with a desire to lose weight will try to limit the calories they take in, since the more we take in, the more we have to burn in order to start working on reducing our fat stores. Remember, it's necessary to burn 3,500 extra calories to lose a pound of fat, so if we consume an 1,100-calorie value meal at a fast-food chain, we've expended half of our daily calorie budget, and we're nowhere near halfway done with eating for the day!
The basic idea about weight loss - that we must burn extra calories to dissolve fat - suggests that people who want to be fit should eat foods that count. Whole grains have more bang for their buck than white bread does, for just one example.
Most people understand the concept of consuming good, intentional calories for maximum health and weight-loss potential. Remember, though, that we're dealing with a metaphor comparing the process of losing weight to the process of gaining happiness.
Whether we're trying to lose weight or gain happiness, we need to scrutinise what we take in all day long. Are we eating high-carb junk food? Likewise, are we exposing ourselves to the equivalent of junk food in our daily influences?
It's not good for us to spend hours watching the news, especially when our world is in so much crisis. After watching hours of news, we start to feel horrible inside.
And what else are we mentally consuming? Are we watching television shows that include the sort of troubling content that infects our dreams? Are we spending time arguing with strangers on social media so that when we finally leave our computers, we feel beaten up and misunderstood?
When we offer our minds a steady diet of troubling or negative content, is it any wonder we're out of shape when it comes to our personal contentment? Whatever we consume, our body processes, and it suffuses our entire body before we finally expel it.
The truly unfortunate part of this is that our bodies get used to what we offer it, whether it's unwholesome food or negative content. I have a friend who gets up every single day at 5 a.m. and turns on a television news analysis show that is two hours of nothing but negative political commentary on the current occupant of the White House? While it's good to be informed about the world, even to my friend, that feels like overkill - but she can't seem to tear herself away. It's like an all-you-can-eat buffet of negativity.
Have you ever had an ear worm? You walk into the pharmacy, and the music on the overhead speaker includes a song you never really liked, despite its catchiness. Three hours later, you find yourself humming it in traffic. It's stuck inside your head, and you're going to have to deal with it until it finally unhooks itself and moves on.
Whatever we feed our minds keeps playing and goes on and on. In this way, whatever we expose ourselves to affects us and sticks, perhaps on a deeper level than we recognise.
What are we feeding our minds? We can tell by how we feel. If we feed ourselves happiness, peace, kindness, and beauty, we can anticipate a beautiful life. For everything we expose ourselves to, we must ask ourselves, "Is this feeding my soul?"
Get back on track
Everybody who has ever thought about losing weight understands the straightforward concepts of diet and exercise. There is a third aspect to weight loss that is discussed far less often, but it is probably the biggest key to achieving weight-loss goals. That is the concept of not giving up.
Persistence is critically important in weight loss. We might diet and exercise regularly, but then one day we give in to pressure or desire. We might thoughtlessly consume food that we know has less value and extra calories, or we might skip exercising. It's actually quite normal to take a day off from time to time; with exercise, for example, a break is sometimes necessary for muscles to stitch and heal.
But a successful weight-loss plan means that we come back from our break and we try again.
Many people who embark on a weight-loss journey have days or weeks of success with their eating and exercise plans, and they may even lose some of the weight they want to get rid of. Ultimately, though, they may find that they take a break for a day, and that day off turns into a week off, and suddenly they're no longer doing what they set out to do at all. They've given up, not intentionally, but through attrition - a gradual lessening of their efforts - or by stopping cold.
A successful fitness regimen requires that we come back to it after an off day. The truth is, a diet or exercise plan can get hard, and we just say, "Screw it." Instead, we could offer ourselves another message: "I had an off day, but I'm going to jump back in and keep trying."
With focused attention on our fitness, we may get into quite good shape, and the same is true with happiness. Our happiness diet can be really good - but then we get off of it. We may find ourselves complaining too much or working too hard or being around people who tear us down.
When we find that we have fallen off of our happiness plan, do we just give up? I hope not. I hope we choose the superior option, which is to say, "I can do this. Today is a new day. This moment is a new moment. I'm going to work toward embracing my happiness."
What we need to do is to decide once again that we are going to do the things that feed our soul. We can intentionally choose those actions and influences that will create peace and happiness for us. If we're not sure what to do, we can try things like listening to an inspirational podcast, or reading books about people who are getting things right in terms of their own satisfaction. We can take on habits, like meditation, that help us to find contentment and peace in each moment of life.
And when we get off track, we can recognise that each day is a new chance to start again and to get things right.
I find that it is helpful to keep a list handy to offer options of things that are good for me - things like uplifting books, positive entertainment, or uplifting activities to do with positive people. When we hit a bump in the happiness road, we can consult our list and try one of those activities to get ourselves moving steadily in the right direction once again.
Even though we don't know what the future holds, we can keep choosing the more positive path to get back on track with our happiness diet. Let this be our mantra: "I will keep working toward finding contentment and happiness in life." And if we keep making the choices that are good for our soul, we'll get there.
Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D. is host and producer of the Happiness Podcast, with over 8 million downloads. He is the author of 13 books, TV show host, Psychology Today blogger, and corporate trainer, has been studying the actions it takes to reach the highest levels of human achievement for decades, and he wants to share what he knows with you.
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Tuesday, 25 August 2020
How To Use Your Time To Create The Life You Want
How you use your time is just one of the variables to success. I'm not talking about the passage of time because time just is. It's what you do with the time that you have that matters. One of the secrets to success is knowing how much time to spend on the right things at the right time in the right order to get the results you want in your life.
We have so many distractions these days that it's so easy to be swayed off course. So how do you know when you're using your time effectively and when you're not?
1. Get the Balance Right
It's all about balance. If you feel you're working too slowly, how can you speed up such that you're still fully present with the task at hand, you're minimising errors and you're in that alpha brainwave state (where you're fully absorbed in what you're doing)? If work is coming in at a faster pace than your working pace you know you need to reduce the time you're spending on tasks or increase your pace.
If you're rushing around in a state of unhealthy stress (yes there is healthy stress... it's called moderate pressure!) what do you need to do to slow down and bring a sense of calmness and balance back into your being?
If you're being drawn away from what you're doing by social media and time is just passing you by, what strategies and stops do you need to put in place to ensure that you minimise those distractions? It's all about finding that fine line between speed and pace, between stress and pressure, between distraction and taking a break.
How you view what you're engaged in at any point in time is key to how successfully you do what you do. It's about gaining that clarity in your mind. For example if you feel your pace is too slow or to fast on a particular day and you've got a long list of tasks to accomplish that day, get clear about why your pace is the way it is.
Look back at what you were doing yesterday. Did you have a full-on day yesterday, or was your day too easy? In which case should you have scheduled in a lighter day today or a more active one? How did you sleep last night? If you spent the night tossing and turning and hardly slept that might be a clue that maybe your body just needs rest today. If you slept soundly last night this is going to contribute to an extra boost of energy for you.
Look at what you've been eating over the last few days. If it's empty calories that give you the feeling of fullness but lack nourishment, this is going to drain your energy levels. If, however, you've been taking in food and drink packed with E numbers you may find yourself bouncing off the walls. All of these aspects are going to have an impact on the time you spend, so planning your days effectively taking account of your energy levels is crucial.
2. Understand How You Respond
Another indicator as to whether your life is working for you time wise is how well you're moving towards what you want in life. A measure of this is how you're responding at the end of each day to what you've achieved... or not. If you feel disappointed because once again you've not accomplished what you wanted to achieve, perhaps it's because once again you've unrealistically tried to fit too many tasks into one day.
By asking yourself certain questions about the activities you undertake will begin to give you an understanding of how well you're using your time. Do you feel your task is too big, too small, too boring? Maybe you're unclear on exactly what it is you need to do. Perhaps you lack clarity on how you're going to do what it is you want to do.
3. Prioritise Your Activities
Maybe what's needed is some time to clearly define your activity, why you're doing it and to work out a simple strategy that will at least get you moving. Sometimes when you take a few moments to take just these simple steps, your energy levels begin to stabilise because confusion, frustration and uncertainty begin to wane.
Taking some time to simply prioritise your tasks according to their level of importance, timing each one and deciding when you are going to tackle each is an amazingly freeing activity on a mental level that will begin to move you forward. Adopting this more practical approach will also help you to learn more about how you naturally work, and to work in accordance with this.
4. Get Clear on Your Outcomes
The clearer you can be about your desired achievements, the more constructively you'll find yourself using your time. How to do this is relatively simple:
- Get really clear on exactly what you want to achieve
- Map out your strategy for getting there
- Break your project down into prioritised and timed phases and tasks
- Get to work!
- Evaluate on an ongoing basis what's working and what's not
- Make the necessary adjustments along the way
- Stay open-minded to what success will look like
- Keep going until you get to where you want to go (or to the closest version of it)
- Rinse and repeat
Carmen Gilfillan is the founder of Stimulus Development & Training. Stimulus specialises in helping people overcome emotional trauma, experience emotional breakthroughs and live their best lives. We do this through Life & Wellness Coaching, Emotional Freedom consultations and training in the areas of personal, professional and spiritual growth. Check out our website at http://www.stimulus.uk.com to book your free Emotional Breakthrough consultation.
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Sunday, 16 August 2020
Quickly Shift From Fear to Happiness
Some pundits say that the most desired goal of a person should be to live in a state of happiness, as if it's a constant and stable way of being and feeling. That belief puts pressure on us and actually creates the exact opposite effect, counteracting any efforts to gain true happiness.
The truth is that the emotional state of each person varies to a great degree many times during the span of a day. In fact one's emotional state is often much more variable than is typically believed and can change instantly. Indeed, every person alive on this planet experiences a vast multitude of emotional state changes during the span of a day. We constantly shift up and down on the emotional scale as we experience things with our senses.
The changes in emotional state are all from the same cause - a change of the frequency of energy around us and how we interpret it. All of what we call emotions are simply how our brain interprets the energies that our physical senses receive. Those energies may range from the ones we can see, touch, and hear to those that are beyond the capabilities of our physical senses.
Some of the emotions resulting from experiencing these energies may seem to be be similar and so are discerned as being the same. But any variation in volume or intensity of an emotion is a complete change of emotional state.
Basically we have categorised all energies as we sense them into two types of emotions - fear and love. Fear is simply lower frequencies of energy. We can experience fear as "a sinking feeling", loss of energy, resistance to moving into action, weakness, and a multitude of other sensations that block forward movement. Love is at the other end of the energy scale and promotes experiencing such as creativity, a desire to become active, greater physical energy, and a sense of freedom.
As you go through your day, notice the fluctuations of your emotions. Practice becoming aware of how they quickly move up and down the scale of energetic frequency from some form of fear to a form of love, from feeling blocked to feeling free, from feeling weakened to feeling energised.
When you've gained the ability to easily and quickly sense emotional energy shifts, the next step is to consciously empower yourself to shift into the higher frequential ranges of emotional energy. You know... happiness. One simple method is to remind yourself of a feel-good that you experienced. In other words, something that you enjoyed with your physical senses. Here is a list of a few that I experienced during my morning recently:
- Touch - A light, misting rain is drifting downward. When I go outside to fill the bird feeders I turn my face up to the sky and delight in the tickling sensation of little raindrops on my skin.
- Touch - When I come back in the house, I settle into my big comfy overstuffed chair, sitting crosslegged in it as I prepare to write my Morning Pages. If furniture could hug, this chair would give award-winning hugs.
- Sight - I look up at the high window and see the raindrops lined up on the gutter. They remind me of people lined up along the street, happily watching a parade.
- Hearing - My cat jumps up on the chair arm to take his rightful place next to me while I do my writing. His deep, rumbling purrs are like comforting music to me.
- Smell - The furnace turns on and I smell the delicious aroma of the essential oil I placed on the new furnace filter I installed this morning. I take slow, deep breaths to better enjoy the spicy scent of the oil.
- Taste - Before I begin writing, I take a deep drink of the water in my glass, into which I've placed drops of Elderberry extract. The water tastes delicately of the berries and is very pleasing.
Throughout the day when I begin to feel my emotional energy level drop because of outside influences from lower frequential energies, which I sense with one of my physical senses, I can quickly and easily recall one of the happier influences such as the ones I listed and instantly I've countered the lower frequency with a higher one. Voila! My emotional state is rescued from a downward slide by the use of the memory of a happier, more pleasant sense experience.
A higher state of frequential energy (happiness!) is easily and quickly created by your awareness of the physical senses you choose to focus on. Shift your own frequential energy state using this simple technique: Make a list of the things around you that bring you happiness. Keep it handy for quick reference during those times that you feel your personal energetic frequency sliding down into the realms of fear. And add to it frequently.
Kathy Wilson helps people create a better life for themselves using a multi-faceted approach. Your needs are unique, and the methods she uses are customised to your specific needs. As her client, you and she may use Life Purpose Coaching, spiritual mentoring and consulting, NLP, vibrational healing, PSYCH-K, Tarot, teaching... whatever is in your highest and best interests. She's a Certified Professional Coach, spiritual teacher, Reiki master, vibrational healer, author of An Inner Journey: Living Your Life Purpose, and has written and published many eBooks and articles. For information about her products, services, and classes, visit her website: http://www.warrior-priestess.com.
Sunday, 9 August 2020
Great Leaders SEIZE The Moment!
There's no place, in genuine leadership, for, blaming, and complaining, avoiding personal responsibility, or resorting to delaying, and procrastination! Rather, real leaders, regardless of position, held, or level/ type, etc, must, proactively, be ready, willing, and able, to move forward, responsibly/ reliably, and SEIZE the moment! Many observers, point to the present behaviour of President Donald Trump, in an attempt to indicate/ demonstrate, some of the potential, inherent dangers and ramifications, of blaming, complaining, avoiding, and procrastinating! Whether, we are considering, the leader of the so - called, free - word, or someone, in a leadership position, in any organisation or group, it is essential, for an individual, to proceed, sooner, rather than later, in a well - considered, strategic manner. With that in mind, this article will attempt to, briefly, consider, examine, review, and discuss, using the mnemonic approach, what this means and represents, and why it matters!
1. Service; sustainable; strengthening; solutions: You're not a real leader, unless/ until, your approach and emphasis, is focused, on the finest, quality service and representation! One must proceed, in a relevant manner, while understanding, the sustainable needs, and requirements, of leading! What good, does anyone do, unless his leading, strengthens, the group, consistently? Real leadership must be based, and focused, on, conceiving, creating, and implementing the finest, possible solutions!
2. Empathy; emphasis: The key to being a real leader, is possessing, maintaining, and proceeding, with the utmost degree of genuine empathy, based on effectively, listening, and learning, from every conversation, and experiencing, and proceeding, accordingly, putting the greater good, ahead of any personal/ political agenda, and/ or, self - interest! Observe where someone, places his primary emphasis!
3. Integrity; ideas; ideology/ ideals; imagination/ innovative: Real leaders must maintain genuine integrity, and never resort, simply, to some path, of least resistance, of settling, for, good - enough, and/ or, the same - old, same - old! Ideas, based on common ideology, and ideals, rather than self - interest, etc, combined, with possessing a well - considered, developed, imagination, permits basic innovation, for the greater good!
4. Zealous; zero - based: Instead of, simply, lacking imagination, and proceeding, in the same - old, same - old, way, a real leader must be willing, to think, outside - the - box! An essential component should be, to use zero - based, budgeting, in order to create, an organisation, ready for contingencies, etc! One must proceed, in every aspect, in a zealous manner!
5. Efforts; excellence; endurance; enrich: Shouldn't a leader's efforts, focus, on enriching his group, and constituents? To do so, he must have real endurance, to continue forward, when lesser individuals, may, give - up! What good, is a leader, if he doesn't demand his utmost degree of personal excellence?
Never procrastinate, but move forward, in a well - considered, timely manner, and SEIZE the moment! Are you ready, willing, prepared, and able to be a real leader?
Richard has owned businesses, been a COO, CEO, Director of Development, consultant, professionally run events, consulted to thousands of leaders, and conducted personal development seminars, for 4 decades. Rich has written three books and thousands of articles. His company, PLAN2LEAD, LLC has an informative website http://plan2lead.net and Plan2lead can also be followed on Facebook http://facebook.com/Plan2lead
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Sunday, 2 August 2020
When Things Look Bleak, Live Your Life One Day At A Time
Slow Down And Reassess Your Priorities
How are you coping at the moment? What are your chief concerns? How are you dealing with it? Even though we're living in tenuous times, it is important we check in with ourselves regularly. People cope in different ways, some better in stressful conditions, while others internalise their stress. We ought to deal with what is affecting us, instead of repeating the patterns of the past. Whist the pandemic may appear bleak at the moment, it doesn't mean it will be permanent. Mankind has faced many challenges throughout history.
Regrettably, many people will succumb to the virus and their families and friends will be affected. It is tragic when people lose their lives to a disease beyond their control. But we mustn't live in a constant state of fear because what we dwell upon may come to pass. We should focus on taking the smallest step to secure our dreams and best future. Life will improve, there are no two ways about it. We have experienced these challenges before and will overcome them again.
In times like this, our attitude determines our altitude; how high we soar above our challenges.
It is how we respond in times of crisis that determines whether we stay stuck or look for positive solutions. Man's greatest discoveries were made during some of the darkest periods in human history. Mankind is resilient and can overcome any of life's challenges, with the right mindset and attitude. Knowing this, what actions could you take to deal with your worries? Does it involve giving attention to your mental, emotional and physical well-being? Perhaps it requires less interaction with social media and the news, or reaching out to friends and loved ones more often?When we take each day as it comes, we become present to the moment, rather than hope for a future that may not arrive as we expect.
I'm getting the sense that this pandemic is teaching us to slow down and reassess our priorities.
It is inviting us to place value on the importance of family, friendships, purpose and living in the present moment. Being grounded in the now helps us anchor ourselves to our present moment experience. It reduces the stress of living in the future, and we become grateful for each moment we're alive. So, when things look bleak, we ought to live one day at a time and savour what we have.
Live Each Day As Though It Were A Precious Gift
Does it make sense that scurrying from day to-day does little to bring you peace of mind? It only compounds to the stress experienced before the pandemic. In a recent video blog titled: Although The World May Never Be The Same, You Can Still Find A New Normal, I outline five ways to find a new normal going forward. I explain that we are being invited to create a new paradigm for our future, rather than bring the old with us. This will mean letting go of how the future should be and allow life to fill us with: peace, harmony, cooperation and togetherness.
We ought to think differently about how we live, otherwise we are doomed to repeat the same mistakes.
As you know, this pandemic has ruined many lives and businesses, not to mention the financial burden on world economies.So, let's hunker down and learn the lessons instead of blaming others for the way things are. Yes, we're all in this together because our choices impact others. For example, not wearing a face mask in public can have a devastating effect on thousands of people. This is an opportunity to look into ourselves and examine our motives, to see whether they are aligned with a new world being ushered in. So, what are you giving your attention to right now? What do you hope to create going forward? What do you want to see in the months and years ahead? Begin where you are now and live each day as though it were a precious gift, instead of lamenting how things should return to normal.
The normal we once knew wasn't working, so life is giving us the opportunity to write a new script.
Savour every moment because life has a way of turning at the drop of a hat. Take inventory of your life, no matter your age and decide what you'd like the world to look like. Your actions have a ripple effect, in ways you can never imagine. Act locally but think globally, goes the saying. So, after you finish reading this article, go back to the questions at the beginning and answer them as best you can. Check in with yourself regularly and optimise your mental and emotional well-being. After all, when things look bleak, living one day at a time opens you to infinite opportunities that you may not have seen before.
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Sunday, 26 July 2020
B.R.E.A.T.H.E. - Dealing With Stress In The Age Of COVID-19
Our world is riddled with fear and anxiety. Finances. Aargh! How will we pay the rent/mortgage or have money to pay for food when we're out of work? We're lonely and miss the times when we could be with our friends and family. If we have kids, we agonise over what kind of impact the lockdown is having on them, and if we'll survive home-schooling and 24/7/365 childcare. And then there's the very real possibility that we or our loved ones might come down with the virus.
When our brain is hijacked by so many strong emotions, it may seem that there is nothing we can do to diminish our fear or anxiety. Yet, there is a way to manage how we feel. To start, just breathe. Not only physically breathe, but use the B.R.EA.T.H.E. technique, as described below.
Breathe
Take three deep breaths, focusing purely on your breath as you inhale (through your nose if you can) on a count of 4, hold for a count of 3, then exhale (through your mouth if you can) on a count of 4. This technique is called a "pattern interrupt." Whenever an anxious thought creeps up, by focusing on your breathing for only a few moments, you will interrupt the pattern of panic or fearful emotions just long enough to calm down your racing mind, and your body's over-active flight/fight response.
Deep breathing relaxes your heartbeat and steadies you so you can get back to constructive thought. You know, the problem-solving variety, as opposed to the "Chicken Little the sky is falling" variety. So, the first step to control anxiety is to take three, slow, deliberate deep breaths whenever the need arises.
Reclaim Your Relationships
Reclaim your relationships with your family, your significant other, your children and your friends. If you're with your kids at home, see it as a positive even if they're loud and demanding sometimes (OK, always). Appreciate this "forced togetherness" and view it as a unique opportunity to grow close. The internet is full of ideas and resources that can help you cope with being together intensely under one roof.
In addition, make the effort to call, text and set up Zoom gatherings with extended family and friends. You need their support, and they need yours. Connection is more vital now than ever. Be creative. This is not a time to ignore the relationships that matter to you.
Express Your Emotions
Find a safe person, someone you can trust with your emotional life. Finding such a person and interacting with them regularly can be a critical way of easing your anxiety. This can be a counsellor, a minister, or a healthcare worker, for example. It's tempting to unload on your BFF, but a professional is better equipped to deal with your fears and anxiety on an ongoing basis.
A good alternative - or adjunct - is to express your emotions in a private journal. Journaling gives you the opportunity to express your innermost feelings. It's your safe and private place to talk about the stresses you're feeling. Journaling can be cathartic since you're no longer holding your feelings inside. You don't have to be a writer to journal. You can scribble nonsense on a pad, rage all over your keyboard, and be as ungrammatical as you like. Journaling is a release, not an exercise in either penmanship or prose.
Aim Your Focus
When we're in the midst of a crisis, the tendency is to allow our focus to drift back to the cause of your anxiety again and again. It keeps you up at night. All night. Not good for your health! Besides, rehashing your troubles endlessly only succeeds in making you more anxious, more stressed, more out of control.
Deliberately, purposefully aim your focus. When you find yourself drifting into useless worry or questioning, take charge and do your best to problem-solve. Be a MacGyver, get intrigued by what you can accomplish with what's at hand, here and now, rather than sweating over what you can't, obsessively.
Transform Your Negative Thoughts
Closely related to aiming your focus is transforming your negative thoughts. Be alert to when your thoughts veer into negative thinking. Reframe them into more positive statements.
So, for example, "I've been laid off, it's horrible, how am I ever going to survive this?" can be reframed to "I've been laid off, OK, I'm not the only person experiencing this. I'm good at what I do, I will bounce back. I've applied for unemployment. That will help."
Above all, be sincere. Don't lie to yourself "Oh, it's all going to be fine," may eventually be true, but if that's not what you believe in the here and now, don't say it. One of my favourite reframes is "We're one day closer to normal." That, for me, has the ring of truth.
Heal Your Body
Pay attention to the physical manifestations of anxiety or stress. Stick with a healthy routine. Don't overeat or over drink. Don't let the refrigerator or the drinks cabinet be your "go-to" when really you're simply bored. Boredom is much better alleviated with exercise, or reading, or some kind of productive work than with munching your way through the day.
Make sure you are getting enough sleep, since good sleep is one of the body's best restorative tools. Given that sleep can be difficult when you're stressed, consider using one of the calming meditations readily available online, usually for free, to help lull you into sleep.
Get rid of your anxious thoughts before you turn the lights out: toss them into an imaginary wastebasket. Follow that up with writing down a list of everything you were grateful for that day, and let those be the thoughts you carry with you into slumber.
You love working out at the gym-but the gym is closed. You look forward to your weekly game of tennis with your friends-but the gate to tennis courts is locked. Don't make the excuse of not exercising because exercise options are no longer available. Exercise at home-there are multitudinous YouTube exercise videos of all kinds. I've found enough ballet barre videos to keep me going for quite a while! Exercise is not only good for your body, it releases endorphins that help you get into a more positive, calmer, less anxious frame of mind.
Wash your hands, observe social distancing, wear that mask, and B.R.E.A.T.H.E.! Hopefully we'll all meet together on the flip side of COVID-19, having weathered this challenging time successfully.
Noelle C. Nelson, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, consultant, popular speaker in the U.S. and abroad, and author of over a dozen best-selling books. Dr. Nelson focuses on how we can all enjoy happy, fulfilling lives while accomplishing great things in love, at home and at work, as we appreciate ourselves, our world and all others. She is the author of "Happy Healthy... Dead: Why What You Think You Know About Ageing Is Wrong and How To Get It Right" (MindLab Publishing). You Matter. You Count. You Are Important. Visit http://www.noellenelson.com, https://www.facebook.com/MeetTheAmazings.
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Friday, 17 July 2020
Remember "Why"
"He who has a why to live can bear with almost any how" -Friedrich Nietzsche
Have you ever been in a situation where you carry on with your life, perhaps you have a job, you get up every morning go to work, come back to your family and carry this on for a year or two and all of a sudden one day on a lonely day or a quite day you feel empty and ask yourself "Why, What and Who?" Why do you do the things you do? What do you live for? Who are you? and what do you really what to accomplish. Such a feeling of emptiness and questioning yourself is usually a self-reflection point in your life. Life can become a routine and at times we live on autopilot every day and forget the purpose regarding our lives. This in a long term or even short term can leave us feeling empty without hope.
I would like to remind you to be purposeful about the intent of your life. Remember why you are where you are and you do what you do. Why you have your spouse as a life partner, remember the reasons you had that made you feel that they are suitable to live life with you, why you feel important about your children and what you would like them to accomplish in life and what you would like to teach them. The most important person is you, what is your purpose, how would you like to be remembered in this life, what would you like to contribute. Having this form of self-reflection can help you live life with a sense of purpose and more intent. This will help you live happier and fulfilled. When you feel happier and fulfilled you are more likely to pursue and achieve your life goals.
Get up each day remembering why you do the things you do. Take time to meditate on your life, this will give you energy and the enthusiasm to pursue your dreams. Without remembering "why" you risk living a life that at times can feel purposeless. Without purpose, as human beings we are doomed to give up on everything and feel unhappier. Find your why, reach your goals and live a fulfilling life.The best time to start is not an hour later or tomorrow, start now.
Remember to remain inspired, to move all obstacles standing in your way of success and do not dare give up on yourself or your dreams.
Phillip Ramphisa is the most sought after South African Motivational Speaker and Philanthropist. He helps people and organisations achieve their goals faster than they thought possible. His life mission is to end suffering and help people thrive in their lives. Phillip speak in conferences and events. To contact him please visit http://www.phillipramphisa.com
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Sunday, 12 July 2020
Begin Your Day With Morning Affirmations
Folks are always researching ways to motivate themselves to be the greatest they can be. Given that they want ways that they may accomplish this easily, they like to ensure that they can be doing the things which they may to produce their lives better. Successful people are always researching ways to boost the probability of improving a lot more.
What Are Morning Affirmations?
The affirmations are something you do and say each morning while you are getting ready for your personal day. They are statements which can be positive so that you can to utilise them to fuel your energy and concentrate in the daytime. Many individuals find that they feel better whenever they take advantage of the affirmations consistently each and every day.
Exactly Why Are Morning Affirmations Healthy For You?
Using morning affirmations is shown to make people have a far more positive attitude towards life on the whole. They could improve how they perceive themselves and exactly how they search to others. It enables them to gain confidence to ensure they are able to venture out in to the world and carry out the things that they need to do within a successful manner.
Where Should You Really Do Your Morning Affirmations?
When you should do your morning affirmations, it is possible to select from a number of possibilities. You can even mix them up too for each day of the week. Daily, you will notice that there can be an exclusive place or time that you intend to make use of affirmations. You can find no rules that you need to go by but you might need some suggestions to assist you. Read about some possibilities that you might want to use:
1. Mirror - You are able to say your affirmations to yourself or aloud facing a mirror when you are getting ready for the day. Be sure that you take advantage of the mirror in the positive manner instead of to pick out apart your image.
2. Bed - Lots of people like in which to stay bed a bit longer because they are saying their affirmations. It's essential to not fall to sleep as you are saying them.
3. Shower Or Bath - When you are within the shower or maybe the bath when you are starting the day, it is advisable to make sure that you know that one could say your affirmations. This is amongst the easiest ways to fit within your affirmations.
4. Breakfast - You can also say your affirmations while you are eating your breakfast. It's also possible to do this when you are rendering it and cleaning through your morning meal.
5. Dressing - If it's simpler for you to state your affirmations while you are dressing, then, by all means, do so. The point is that you want to express them sooner or later before every day begins.
6. About The Toilet - Some individuals learn that on a commode is an excellent time and energy to say theirs. Because they don't take much time, this is possible.
7. Morning Walk - In the event you walk or run in the morning, you really should say your affirmations at this point. While you are outside in nature is a marvelous time to give yourself a good commence to your entire day.
8. Trash - Taking out the garbage is a great time and energy to say your affirmations. Take a little extra time when you find yourself outside too with really reinforcing the positive statements that you tell yourself.
9. On Path To Work - Many people say their affirmations on path to work. They learn that it can help a lot before they go into accomplish business.
Do Morning Affirmations Cost Money?
No, there is absolutely no cost to using morning affirmations. Perhaps, this is basically the best basis for making use of them. There is no need to invest a dime in doing something which will truly boost your life. The affirmations will allow you to start every day off about the right foot allowing you to have the very best possibility of rendering it a hit.
How To Find Out Your Morning Affirmations
OK, you wish to begin using affirmations every morning and that is great. You may wonder how to begin the whole process of writing them. Keep in mind, you will need to have some kind of notebook that you can jot down your affirmations.
You will in all probability want several of them and writing them down will assist you to talk about them every once in awhile. There is no must memorise them even if you probably will as you rely on them a growing number of. Here are 10 things to be aware of that may help you in writing your affirmations for excellent success:
1. Short - You want to make certain that you have affirmations which can be short. Long ones might be too complicated to perform, especially while you are just starting out your entire day. Proceed through every day and note the most important thing to you personally to operate on for positive changes. They are the issues that you should concentrate on inside your affirmations.
2. Positive - The affirmations that you use should invariably be positive. You would like to create good energy that you could keep with you through the day. The positive vibes will allow you to gain the strength that you need to get through the day to see improvements. Eliminate the negative areas of your affirmations and through your day altogether.
3. I Statements - Utilising the affirmations is centred on you. You would like to begin your affirmations with all the word I and go from there. Tend not to let others explain to you what your affirmations are until you request their input. In many instances, you will still need to make it more personal to your situation.
4. Present Tense - The affirmations needs to be written in the present tense. You will be trying to puzzle out what you can do today. You do not need to have affirmations which are for the past or future because you are paying attention to exactly what is happening along with you in the here now.
5. Be Sensible - Be sure that your affirmations are realistic. You would like to make sure that you may succeed at them on a regular basis. You may not desire to put excessive pressure on yourself so go at a pace that may be comfortable for your self when you find yourself setting almost any goal.
6. Simplify - Don't complicate your daily life with confusing affirmations. Ensure that you have them as basic as possible. There are several simple things that you could focus on as a way to see great improvements in a short time. What this means is, the less drama, the more effective. Use simple wording within your affirmations to stay focused.
7. Goals - Consider your goals when you are writing out your affirmations. They ought to be goals that you could achieve immediately. You are going to generally have goals that you want to accomplish. Be sure that you leave the long-range ones initially from the affirmation process.
8. Mood - To get rid of bad feelings, you will need to counteract them. If there is something negative in your lifetime, transform it around into a better strategies your statements. Create positive results within your statements to help you accomplish many things.
9. Descriptive - Be sure that the affirmations are descriptive. Use emotional words to convey more ability to the statements. Make use of your imagination with your affirmations so that you can create the process for morning affirmations far more fun too.
10. Honest - Always get in the habit of utilising honesty inside your statements. You would like them to become direct so that you can gain positive energy from them. Gaining momentum from the statements will result in the improvements you are interested in so be as honest as possible be.
The Achievements Morning Affirmations
Since there are lots of testimonials of individuals using affirmation each morning, you can expect to become one too. Much like everything else, you need to get used to making use of them each day. As soon as you develop a good practice of saying these matters to yourself every morning, you will notice the outcome quickly.
25 Morning Affirmations For You To Use
Everyone can have an alternative set of affirmations that can work the most effective for these people. You ought to take the time to find ones that will be successful for you. Be sure that they fit in with those things that you need to use your entire day consistently. Listed here is a listing of 25 great morning affirmations to help you started:
1. I am capable of handling what comes my way.
2. I am highly successful with what I truly do.
3. I am willing to handle all of my problems.
4. I am going to get on with other individuals.
5. I will come up with a success of my workday.
6. I am going to accomplish my own responsibilities today.
7. I am going to do something nice for someone else today.
8. I am a capable person.
9. I am just a sensible person.
10. I will consistently remain as healthy because I can.
11. I will figure out issues with others in my life within a positive way.
12. I will guarantee that my finances are to be able in the simplest way which I can.
13. I am going to ask for help basically if I require it.
14. I will take care of myself physically.
15. I am going to eat healthily and remain fit.
16. I am going to be kind and nice for some other people.
17. I am going to be honest and comply with the laws always.
18. I will succeed at what I need to do.
19. I am going to find friends that are ideal for me.
20. I will look and feel good always.
21. I have got the courage to tackle things that come my way.
22. I understand that everything works out for the very best.
23. I am just a remarkable person that is strong.
24. I am an enthusiastic person that loves life.
25. I make positive changes to better myself.
Thinking Up More Affirmations For Yourself
As you go using your day, you can find more affirmations that you can use. Ensure that you jot them down in your notebook. It's smart to carry your notebook in your purse, bag or briefcase wherever you go. You may always need to have a pen and paper to publish them down the instant you think of them. Many people likewise use their cellular phones, laptops or tablets to jot across the affirmations because they visit them when they are out and about.
When You Get A Good System Yourself - Stick With It
Once you have your affirmations written out and also you develop your personal design of completing them, you will want to stick with them. The greater number of that you simply do them, the greater they may work. It's also habit-forming so repeatedly performing your routine will enable you to make use of affirmations automatically. Every day is going to be wonderful once you start it out saying your affirmations to yourself.
More Success With Affirmations
People that use affirmations will discover an incredible improvement in their lives. You may even would like to say them during your day as well as at night too for that ultimate results. It never hurts to say them more, particularly if you are having a negative day, which we all do sometimes. Say them whenever you must as well as the results will keep improving.
Using positive affirmations in the morning helps lots of people. Once you start to fit these into the daily routine, you will begin to see achievement. Ensure that you make time to start your morning affirmations at the earliest opportunity so that you will be able to reap the rewards that they will offer to you personally.
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